It is often said that friends are
the family that you choose for yourself. As it is with family, friends come in
all shapes and sizes and move in and out of your life, as circumstances
dictate. Some friends are regular participants in your life and others may be
more sporadic but true friends, the people who really matter and make a
difference to you, are always ready to listen, to meet up, to be a presence
when the need is there - even if you haven’t seen each other for a long time.
It is a blessing to me that I have a strong group of friends that I can call
upon when I need them and who, I would hope, would do the same to me as and
when they needed support.
I am about to spend a weekend away
with a group of friends - an eclectic bunch who have agreed to join me in a girls
adventure marking my birthday. Each one of them has their own busy life and
family commitments, yet they put it all on hold to indulge me in a madcap,
frivolous weekend and spent a year saving up to be able to do so.
What is it that draws people together to become friends? Often a shared interest perhaps and we are all partial to a bit of drama, this is true. When in the playground, choosing friends, you pick from similar aged peers. Now there’s 20 years or more between the youngest and oldest of our group, yet it doesn’t seem to figure in the relationships. We can all laugh together and support each other, as required, without limits.
It seems like I should return to
this blog, when the impending weekend is done and I no doubt will have a wealth
of experiences from it on which to comment. Yet is that necessary? I’m thinking
of the old adage of “you needed to be there.” Indeed, trying to relay anecdotes
of something that a group found completely hilarious to a dumbfounded looking
individual, after the event, is never a fully satisfactory pastime.
I know that we will laugh, drink,
eat and do silly things and perhaps that’s all that needs to be said. Over a
year saving, several months planning events during the weekend, copious amounts
of messages back and forth fine tuning details of outfits to wear, times to
meet and catch trains and one central space set up for all of us to post our
photographs during the weekend - all culminates in a shared experience that,
with a bit of luck, we’ll all look back on with fond memories for many years to
come.
And that is surely the crux of it? Making memories with the people that matter to you, isn’t that what life needs to be about? I’m sure, when the curtains are about to fall upon your final life’s performance, it is not the items you have bought or the jobs that you completed that come into focus in your mind. Memories are etched into your mind from sharing experiences together - with friends or family, or friends who become family. It is not how long you have shared a pathway with someone that matters, it’s who you jumped in the puddles with, who climbed a tree with you, who ran giggling with you to hide behind the bushes.
So, I’m not sure that the seven of
us will be doing those things this weekend but we are booked into a dance
workshop, an afternoon tea, an evening of relaxing chat with a tipple or two
thrown in and who knows what else may transpire? As the theme is vintage, we’re
all dressing up accordingly - I did say it was a madcap adventure! Within that
context, we have our feather boas ready and are so excited that it’s akin to
being schoolgirls again. It’s so lovely to be giving ourselves time and space
to be silly, be pampered and to make memories together. Onlookers may not ‘get
it’ but we’re all up for the nonsense of it and if you can’t have a bit of
nonsense from time to time, then life’s a bit dull.
Perhaps we all need to be daft from
time to time and we certainly shouldn’t just keep things on a bucket list and
never get round to doing them. Choose your bucket list items carefully but
share the experiences with those who are significant in your life, be that
friends or family. I’m off to pack now and I’ve made sure I’ve got my bucket
with me!
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